Your hollow expression was the first thing I saw as I returned from a walk with one of your neighbors. Seeing you alone in your wheelchair, eyes slightly downward in a vacant stare, I wondered if you might enjoy some company. Still, I was unsure of how my advance would be received.
Just then, you looked up at me and my doubts disappeared. Those vacant eyes were suddenly alive and sparkling with joy, as a wide smile completed the picture. Just like that, you were fully present and engaged, holding out both hands as you greeted me, “Hello beautiful!”
We took a lovely walk outside, stopping to sit for a while by the pretty little goldfish pond. You looked content as you held my hand, falling in and out of a light sleep. I wasn’t the least bit offended. Conversation isn’t always necessary; we shared some very special moments under that beautiful blue sky.
Each time you woke, you glanced up and it was as though we were meeting again for the first time. Your eyes danced as you smiled brightly and squeezed my hand.
“Are you my nurse?”
“No, Mr. Z., I’m just your friend. I came by to visit.”
As we waited for someone to let us back into the building, you gently kissed my hand and told me you were a romantic. I can only imagine what a charmer you must have been 60 or 70 years ago. I’ll bet the ladies were lining up at your door.
Until next time, goodnight my friend. Thank you for our special date. In our short time together, you unwittingly reminded me of what’s important in life; you helped me stop and hear the trickling waterfall and the sweet chorus of chirping birds. Without you, those things would have gone unnoticed this evening, and what a shame that would have been.
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*Mr. Z.’s name has been changed to protect his privacy.
Lovely post.
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Thank you Mary. I’m glad it touched your heart.
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Beautiful. People with dementia need more visitors. And we can find joy in giving them joy. Sharing on my Facebook page.
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You’re right, Susan…. the gift of time and affection – seems so simple, doesn’t it? And what we receive in return is such a treasure. Thanks for sharing the post.
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That was beautiful Ann! I wish there were more people like you in the world!
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Thank you for the kind words, Karen… the gifts they give me, just by allowing me to spend time with them, are priceless. Incredibly special moments indeed.
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Thank you for this gift. You paused to remember the small beauties and paused to remember with someone who needed a friend and a hand to hold. Thank you for sharing this moment, Ann. You make me believe in the power of kindness.
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Thanks for the kind words, Elaine. I get much more from these sweet, beautiful people than I could ever give them. It does feel good to make them smile and perhaps remember a moment or two from their past. I’m so glad I made the decision to volunteer – particularly in Memory Care.
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BEAUTIFULXXXXXX
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Thanks Sandra… some very sweet moments, indeed.
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That was beautiful. Makes me remember…….
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Beautiful post. Makes me remember…….
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Thanks for reading…. I’m glad it touched you.
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